Helping Children Grieve
Children grieve differently from adults. They may be sad for a moment and then play. They need honest, simple words and steady adults.
Signs you may notice
- Sadness, clinginess or fear of being alone
- Acting younger than their age
- Trouble sleeping or stomachaches
- Anger or acting out
- Asking the same questions again and again
What can help
- Use simple, true words such as "died", not "went to sleep"
- Answer questions patiently, even when repeated
- Keep routines for meals, school and bedtime
- Invite them to family rituals if they want to join
- Offer drawing or play to express feelings
- Let teachers know what is happening
When to reach out
If grief interferes with daily life for months, or your child talks about wanting to be with the person who died or about hurting themselves, get help right away. Call or text 988 (press 2 for Spanish).
Free worksheets
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See free worksheetsFrequently asked questions
What signs should I notice?
Sadness, clinginess or fear of being alone; Acting younger than their age; Trouble sleeping or stomachaches; Anger or acting out; Asking the same questions again and again.
What can help?
Use simple, true words such as "died", not "went to sleep"; Answer questions patiently, even when repeated; Keep routines for meals, school and bedtime; Invite them to family rituals if they want to join; Offer drawing or play to express feelings; Let teachers know what is happening.
When should I look for help?
If grief interferes with daily life for months, or your child talks about wanting to be with the person who died or about hurting themselves, get help right away. Call or text 988 (press 2 for Spanish).
Where can I find help in Spanish in Oregon?
Use the Sanar Network directory to find bilingual and culturally responsive providers in Oregon, or read our resource guide for crisis lines, therapy, addiction help and health insurance by county.
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