Supporting Teens: Signs of Stress and How to Talk
Teens deal with school, friends, identity and sometimes two cultures at once. Moodiness is common. A big change that lasts is worth noticing.
Signs you may notice
- Pulling away from family or friends
- Falling grades or skipping school
- Big changes in sleep or eating
- Constant irritability or sadness
- Giving away belongings or talking about death
What can help
- Listen first and avoid lecturing
- Say what you notice with care: "I have seen you are quiet lately. I am here."
- Keep family time and routines
- Help them find coping tools and trusted adults
- Offer therapy as support, not punishment
When to reach out
If a teen talks about suicide or self-harm, take it seriously. Stay with them, and call or text 988 (press 2 for Spanish). In an emergency, call 911.
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What signs should I notice?
Pulling away from family or friends; Falling grades or skipping school; Big changes in sleep or eating; Constant irritability or sadness; Giving away belongings or talking about death.
What can help?
Listen first and avoid lecturing; Say what you notice with care: "I have seen you are quiet lately. I am here."; Keep family time and routines; Help them find coping tools and trusted adults; Offer therapy as support, not punishment.
When should I look for help?
If a teen talks about suicide or self-harm, take it seriously. Stay with them, and call or text 988 (press 2 for Spanish). In an emergency, call 911.
Where can I find help in Spanish in Oregon?
Use the Sanar Network directory to find bilingual and culturally responsive providers in Oregon, or read our resource guide for crisis lines, therapy, addiction help and health insurance by county.
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