Self-Esteem: Seeing Your Own Strengths
Self-esteem is how we see our own worth. It is shaped by family, culture, school and life experiences, including unfair treatment. It can grow at any age.
Signs you may notice
- A harsh inner voice
- Comparing yourself to others
- Difficulty accepting compliments
- Fear of making mistakes
- Saying yes to please others
- Feeling you are not enough
What can help
- Notice the inner critic and ask: "Would I say this to a friend?"
- List your strengths, including the ones you learned from your family and culture
- Set small goals and celebrate each step
- Spend time with people who respect you
- Practice kind self-talk, like speaking to a friend you care about
When to reach out
If self-criticism leads to hopelessness, pulling away from people, or thoughts of hurting yourself, talk with a professional. Call or text 988 (press 2 for Spanish) if you feel unsafe.
Free worksheets
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See free worksheetsFrequently asked questions
What signs should I notice?
A harsh inner voice; Comparing yourself to others; Difficulty accepting compliments; Fear of making mistakes; Saying yes to please others; Feeling you are not enough.
What can help?
Notice the inner critic and ask: "Would I say this to a friend?"; List your strengths, including the ones you learned from your family and culture; Set small goals and celebrate each step; Spend time with people who respect you; Practice kind self-talk, like speaking to a friend you care about.
When should I look for help?
If self-criticism leads to hopelessness, pulling away from people, or thoughts of hurting yourself, talk with a professional. Call or text 988 (press 2 for Spanish) if you feel unsafe.
Where can I find help in Spanish in Oregon?
Use the Sanar Network directory to find bilingual and culturally responsive providers in Oregon, or read our resource guide for crisis lines, therapy, addiction help and health insurance by county.
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